More complicated than I imagined...

[Michael Mc C]

So I worked on the finances and gave her the information. We're not in really good shape at the moment so as part of the discussion I asked her to try to see if she could come up with some solutions - she's better at this stuff than I am.

She thinks she'll get a part time job, possibly get a loan to take care of some of the immediate needs, and work to pay down some of our debt.

She mentioned that she'd probably be needed to work during the week of Thanksgiving but "that's just the way it is".

I said that when she applies, she could let the "job" know that she has plans for that week and would be unavailable. Her response was "I'm not sure if that's going to work for a part time job. Worse case scenario, you take the kids to NC and I'll just do Thanksgiving dinner with my mother".

First of all, I guess I've answered my question about whether or not I want her to go with us to NC - it appears that I do.

Second, I'm having a hard time NOT being the "fixer". I was so tempted to tell her to hold off getting a job until after November so she could still go with us. On the other hand, I just wish she would say something like "I really want to go to NC. Let's see what WE can do to make that possible."

Or should I be the one making that comment? I hate this!