I guess it's no surprise that you hooked someone like ME with that one Good one, Good one ! Score reads Kettricken 1 IC 0
Partly because it did, on some level, seem shallow .... as in, "You mean to tell me you are married to a wonderful, intelligent, kind, creative, funny, handsome man who takes great care of you and that you have a wonderful life with and who tells you he loves you constantly ... but because you aren't getting touched enough or in a certain way, you don't FEEL (viscerally, as opposed to intellectually) loved???" Put like that, it does seem rather ... overly demanding, one might even say "high maintenance". Finally, I can say, "too damn bad ....." It's just the way I'm wired up.
BTDT...It's hard for people that are not wired that way to "get it" If people were to look at Miss IC and myself they would probably be saying the same things..."but she's this and she does that" Yes, those things are nice but they don't make someone wired like us FEEL loved. And it goes both ways...I was doing what I thought Miss IC wanted...wrong!
Hmmmmmm. Just thought of this. It doesn't seem to be, strictly speaking, "Physical Touch" that produces this effect. It's "Sensual Touch". A quick hug, peck on the lips, anything you would do with family or friends ... no such result. I mean, I love all that stuff and it does make me feel close to my family and friends, but that "bonding" component is absent.
Ding..ding..ding !! No, these DON'T do it !! This was Miss IC's complaint.."I do hug you, I do kiss you" No, I got the quick hugs, the little kisses those just don't cut it.
(I have to admit, those wires can get crossed up on occasion; I've had a few internally embarrassing emotional responses to massage therapists, male and female, but that's beside the point, I think.)
Do tell
Any of you touch junkies out there find the same, that it must be sensual touch to potentiate that special intimacy? Or am I high maintenance, after all?
I personally don't see this as being high maintenance, just as I don't see someone that has a different love language as being high maintenance. That's just how we are
OK, my quiet time is about to end...girls are awaking.
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