Oh yeah...and this evening when I picked up d the first thing she says is "I went to daddy's place!"
I didn't mind, in fact I'm pleased that he has shown her where he lives - it should (hopefully) make things easier next time she is supposed to go stay with him. So I made pleased sounding comments. Then she says "daddy said not to tell you where he lives"
*breathe deeply* My immediate thought was because he isn't living on his own at all and has already moved in with 'new girlie'. Unhelpful and almost certainly untrue thoughts.
"and why not darling?" trying to be calm. ...It took a little bit of maneuvering to get hopefully the right thing out of a 6 year old. Anyways, it seeeeems (keep in mind this is filtered through a six year old - though I would have appreciated it if he could have told me he didn't want me to know where he lives himself) that he doesn't want me to know where he lives so I can't come to his place and argue with him and then get upset and cry. I can sorta understand that but I'm a bit miffed that he is getting d to keep secrets. I mean I know what suburb he is in and that he is near the train station and if I really was feeling psycho I could drive around the area till I found his ute and then I'd know! Then again, if he's got a lock up garage, I probably wouldn't be able to find it...yes I know I know...stalkerish behaviour...not cool...but tempted after two glasses of wine.
I told d that I know what suburb he is in and she seemed a bit like "oh..ok". I then explained I knew roughly where he lives but not the actual street and that I won't go to his place unless he invites me. I wonder if he intended all along to not tell me his address? He has been in the new place two weeks(?) maybe three weeks now.
I need to learn how to cope on my own. He is not my father. I can do this on my own. I just hope d doesn't suffer any fallout.
