OR you could have texted him to say "need to call you to talk about arrangements for d, let me know when is a good time. also, in case your not sure arrangement today is for you to pick her up per previous discussis. let me know if that's changed."
then made sure u wrote down all the arrangements like in the email so when he calls you have it all ready and try to stick to it. and not talk about any emotional stuff.
if he trys to talk about emotional stuff say we need to have a face to face chat. if he continues to talk about it say you'd prefer not to talk on the phone about it and that you also need to have a chat about more permanent arrangements for d and you can talk about it then. and that you prefer face to face as you don't want to be hung up on again.
