Maybe this makes sense. Just little inane conversation, small talk, giggles about silly things. If I am on tenterhooks around him wondering what he is thinking and what he's been doing with her and his new life and if he's mad with me, or just thinks I'm useless - why would I want to expose myself to him by having a conversation with him? .......................
It's like he wants to skip over all the hurt and pain and guilt and jump straight to a 'happily divorced couple who are now really good friends'. Man...that sort of sh1t takes months, maybe years to get to. He wants to get there in less than a month?????
When i read "inane conversation, giggles etc" that sounds like flirting to me (or at least very close, where wires can get crossed) so I'd be cautious about doing that anyway, if it ever becomes possible again. I'd like to know what other members think about that?
you're not useless! and if he thinks you are that is a reflection on him. you need to stop caring about what he thinks. all that stuff about wondering whether he's mad at you... I know it's going to take a while but you need to stop worrying about if he's mad (of course don't purposely make him mad- but if he gets mad because you are looking out for yourself and d that's also a reflection on him).
the second paragraph that i quoted here would be really good to bring up in your next counselling session I think.
hang in there. it will get easier, you just need to keep distancing yourself for now.
