oh yes...and if ever I want to talk to him again. I'm going to have to be the one to suck up and swallow my pride. Cos he won't.
And then I'll be right back where I started. I don't know how to set a boundary without him getting p1ssed off about me setting it.
It's like I can try to set a boundary (don't make sexual comments to me) he can throw a tanty (tantrum) or get the sooks (be upset) and I'll back down in an effort to keep the peace. I just can't see a middle ground in all this crap. this is a dynamic that is so old with us. I don't know if he sees it or if he just thinks I'm screwed up.
God I'd love to have a good chat with his ex-flatmate and find out what she thinks of him now. But that of course would just fuel the fire. It might clear things up, it might just muddy things even more.
