I can imagine how you feel. At least I don't have to compete with OM in regards to him buying my DD's love and acceptance. It is so funny that W cares for him so much, that she will give up everything for him, including her lifestyle. She has suffered financially over the last several weeks since we split all the finances.
She can no longer use my "superfluous" money on herself to buy all the extras that she always asked for, hence me "not being there" because I had to work to get this money.
Sure, OM will be there, due to his regular 9-5 job, but she will not have the luxury of buying whatever she want's with him. It will hit her even harder when she has her own morgage and her own bills to pay for.
Is it normal for a WAS to want to spend every night and day with the OP. I can't believe that he doesn't have a life, and that he can be there for her everyday, that is soooo bizaar. Obviously they both don't have lives, and that is where the problem was with my W. I had a life along with my family (work, friends etc), whilst she did not make an effort to have one for herself, to compliment what she had with our family.
She took DD with her to his place on Sunday (after DD's party), then she went there after work yesterday (Mon) getting home near midnight, then asked me to pick up DD this afternoon, because she was going out (OM) tonight. I have not seen this sort of activity with OM for the entire 11 months she has been with him. It has only happened in the last week, I wonder if the confusing is too much for her and she needs to be away from the family, and family home??? Or is it due to my indifference and withdrawal/detachment/GALing that has forced her to make the R with OM more obvious to me, to push my buttons?
Luckily for me, that has not happened for several months, and will not happen again.
Also the revelation that her whole family dislike him, and the extra kind behaviour towards me over the last few weeks. Who knows? Maybe she needs to validate her feelings for him, by spending more time with him, or maybe her feelings for him are stronger than before, sort of "Romeo and Juliet" syndrome, with everyone against them.
Regardless of which way it goes, I am feeling pretty good about things. Excited about the future, with or without her. But sort of leaning towards without, to be honest.
