Plank removed from my eye, too late for WAW? 7

[Heimlich]

Ah, the thing is, Puddle, I started off with this:

I also get that you're not feeling like pussyfooting around with her right now, no "You're absolutely right, hon..." for you.

I started calm, cool, and collected. After a while, when the person you're talking to is almost willfully twisting what you're trying to say, you just get tired of it. One thing also sticks in my mind. For a number of years I've been the "yes, dear" husband. Generally, that's not a bad thing. However, I seldom contradicted her, mostly because I agreed with her opinions. Why argue,right? She used to say about a guy she kindof dated around the time we met, "I would have run all over him." She's fairly strong willed. I'm all for validating and whatnot. However, at some point, you can't just get walked over. She's was starting to walk. One, that's not the kind of man she wants to be with, I don't think. Two, if she were to come back because of that (she can do as she pleases), that's not the kind of woman I want to be with. That make any sense?

Regarding talking to Lauren on the phone. Sometimes. She's a Daddy's girl. Casey is more a mama's girl. I called my W a few weeks ago when Casey was breaking down. Honestly, I'm OK with this. One of those things, W is seeing what she wants to see. I see both Casey's neediness and Lauren's being high strung as being much closer to the surface. She sees them adjusting. They're doing OK, but . . .

So, yeah, all in all, OK with the way the conversation went. I didn't start angry and I didn't end angry, but, damn, I'll not be a doormat. Nor should anyone.

Puddle, you're one of the most clear-headed folks here, you're always entitled to give advice.

BD