More Growing and Healing

[Michael Mc C]

Hey Frank, glad (I think) that you're still on the board. Started reading your story on Friday and have been at it ever since (trying to work, take care of kids, house, etc. but always making some time.)

Your ability to describe your feelings and what was going in your life and mind from the beginning (2 years!!) has made this a very enlightening thread.

While I see many similarities in our stories but saying it's our WAS' affair and behavior is simply too obvious. What I have really connected with is feeling that "she is nuts", the anger, the confusion (and pain) and trying to do the DB thing the "right" way only to find that I keep sabotaging my own efforts. I get better as I go along but there are those damn pitfalls.

Your story, as tragic as it was for you 2 years ago, has been instrumental in me being able to quickly find SOME of the areas within ME that need fixing, to give me the strength to accept that I do not NEED my W and the focus on preserving my integrity for me and for my kids.

Sure you haven't heard it enough - thanks for being so open so that others may learn, or at least relate.