Update: I want to Salavage my Marriage

[Heimlich]

That's a huge change on your W's part. From what I recall, you haven't heard the word "Love" other than in the context of "I don't" for quite a while. Pretty positive step.

There is danger in swallowing your emotions. A number of folks talk about the anger they feel once the WAS does come back. It's good that you are acknowledging that as a potential issue now. Maybe start thinking about how you're going to deal with it?

Regardless, kudos on the changes. I can tell just from your posts that you seem waaaaaaaay more relaxed than when you began 4 short months ago.

I'll give the usual caveat, be prepared for the pull back, but keep on keeping on.

Maybe we'll be able to abort that "Death from above option" after all, eh?

BD