Update: I want to Salavage my Marriage

[PhD_ChrisD]

Hi All,

I think things are getting better. W asked me this morning "How much do you love me?" My response was: "more than anything in the world." She then asked if she could go out Wednesday and play pool. My response was of course and if that makes you happy, then I am happy. I was really thrilled that she even asked me how much I loved her!!

She still sleeps on the couch and cringes/yells at me if I even touch her. However, I think she is on her way out of the woods. I woke her up this AM to get our son ready, and she smiled a dreamy smile at me. First time I seen that in about 8 months. She is back into some of her old hobbies and old friends. My therapist says I have changed a lot and am all but over my control issues. Now things are up to W to set the recovery pace.

I do wish she would get help with the drinking and anger problems. I especially pray that we can one day go to MC together and more importantly, that she would start going to church with me and the children. Time, space, and patience...time, space, and patience.

I am not sure if all this emotional supression is good for me. I sometimes wonder about the long-term consequences of supressing my thoughts, feelings, and words around her.

--Chris