Wow.
sorry to hear about your pain.
yet happy(?) about your potential reconciliation.

I was originally going to ask, "what is she so mad about, that she cant forgive?"

It seems rather likely now, though, that her affair was the primary cause of all this.

be prepared for more pain.
Judging by the things that many many other people have gone through in similar situations: Odds are, she didnt "just have sex a month ago".
It's more likely she's been having an affair since august 2006, and she only FOUND OUT that she caught herpes from the guy, a month ago.

Not definate, of course. but many people have been told by their leaving spouse, "well, we had sex this one time", only to find out later, it was actually a long term physical affair.

PS: #1 piece of advice:
you need to eat what you can. or you'll get sicker.
I find that it is easy for me to drink the "ensure" meal replacement drinks. they have 3 flavors: vanilla, chocolate, or some other thing.
It's small, so you dont have to force yourself to drink a lot.
Just drink it.


Last edited by Dom R; 10/29/07 11:00 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle