Last week my lawyer told me he had arranged for a mutual meeting with my wife's lawyers to discuss the division of assets. I told my wife that I don't want this but I have to do this if she wants the divorce. I suggested we met for lunch and talked. She agreed. I took her to a nice restaurant and we talked about lots of random stuff and joked. Towards the end I told her that I wish she'd given me another chance because I love her...she said 'OK'. I couldn't believe my ears. She said she wants to go slow though. I was ecstatic, I was the happiest man on earth over the next couple of days.
Last night she dropped another bomb on me though, this one hurts the most. She said a month ago she had sex with someone and as if that wasn't bad enough she's contracted herpes. How could she do this???! She was very apologetic, she said she was devastated, she couldn't believe she could be so stupid or irresponsible. I feel like a 20 ton bulldozer rolled over me. I'm just shattered to pieces. I met her for lunch today and hugged her and told her I'd be by her side but I'm very hurt inside.
I need help...I keep imagining and picture how it probably happened and I'm in rage. Not towards her...I'm devastated. What am I supposed to do now? I love her but will I get over this? How could she wait for over a year and half and do this just a month ago when we were spending more time together as friends and we were being nice to each other. What kid of scum bag could do this to a single mom?
Guys I need some words of advice. I haven't eaten since yesterday not even during lunch and I now have a fever so I left work early.
Me: 32|W: 34|D: 3yo 1st bomb: Feb 2006 (left one day, came back a week later) 2nd bomb: Aug 2006 (moved out, ILYBNILWY) 3rd bomb: Apr 2007 (filed for divorce) 4th bomb: <her finger on the launch button>
