Corri, If I could jump in here for a minute. I think I know where my W is headed with this as we've been down this road before. I have a feeling it has something to do with my family and my dad in particular and my reluctance to dwell on it.. yes hon ?
Well. Things come... in time. The fact that you know, and that you know she knows...
IC. I would think. And write. In a journal. Free flow thought. Just write. Keep writing. And one day, hand it over to her, to read. That way, you just tell. You just drescribe. You don't have to justify. You just tell. And she knows.
No Corri, it's ok. Maybe now is a good time and this is a good way to clear the air if you will. It's kind of like journaling whereas I have time to think what I want to say instead of just winging it off the top of my head (that usually gets me in trouble ) Miss IC might think I'm hiding some horrific something from my past but to me it's not a big deal. I've always got a good accurate unbiased opinion from everyone on here. Nobody is afraid to say "Hey IC, I think you got your head up your ass on this one." Who knows, maybe I'll get a different take on things as to why my family is and does what they do.
I don't want to hi-jack and lock up RJ's thread (although she kind of deserves it after her little tag-team effort with Miss IC ) So I'll continue this over on HD-LD & back. Not tonight though, I'm tired
Lil, Thanks for asking about my father. We moved him ( and my mother) to an assisted living less than 10 minutes from my brother's home. I am grateful for my brother's support ( emotionally, he had been MIA for a long time) as I really wasn't holding up to all the ups and downs, and he's been coming through big time.
It's been the ultimate life challenge for me to let go of the one person in this world I trust, while attempting to rebuild the trust and intimacy in my marriage ( or perhaps really building it for the first time).
A day at a time, and baby steps... right,Corri?
I am sorry to hear about your bf's mother...I know he will be greatly impacted, and he is fortunate to have as empathic a partner as you for support. Oh, BTW Lil, we need to stock up on the extra soft tissues, you know, the ones with aloe, and they need to come in a pretty box, maybe pink or purple, and maybe we also need an endless supply of hot chocolate with marshmallows, and some fuzzy slippers, too. It's going to be a long winter, but hey, Life, bring it on!
And yes, Lil's bf is very fortunate to have Lil through this difficult time. Be good to yourself, Lil. I know it isn't easy, especially for you.... simply because you've BTDT.
Ok Lill, you got me...I get something on my mind and I can't let it rest until I find out what it is.....What in the HELL is a participle? I'm not that dumb, I was just probably thinking about a mini-skirt or something along that line when the participle lesson was being taught. I don't want any text book version either...think..think..think.."how can I put this in a way that IC will understand?"
The verb form that combines with an auxiliary verb to indicate certain tenses.
The present participle is formed by adding -ing to the infinitive; it indicates present action: “The girl is swimming”; “I am thinking.”
The past participle usually ends in -ed; it indicates completed or past action: “The gas station has closed”; “The mayor had spoken.”
Participles may also function as adjectives: “Your mother is a charming person”; “This is a talking parrot”; “Spoken words cannot be revoked.”
Note: A “dangling” participle is one that is not clearly connected to the word it modifies: “Standing at the corner, two children walked past me.” A better version of this example would be, “While I was standing at the corner, two children walked past me.”
) Miss IC might think I'm hiding some horrific something from my past but to me it's not a big deal. I've always got a good accurate unbiased opinion from everyone on here. Nobody is afraid to say "Hey IC, I think you got your head up your ass on this one." Who knows, maybe I'll get a different take on things as to why my family is and does what they do. 
) So I'll continue this over on HD-LD & back. Not tonight though, I'm tired 
..Mr. happy 
