OK, so now back a week and I can honestly say the land of limbo is back again and I am really starting to hate the words 'what ever'.
Admittedly, W is working long hours and probably this is not her good week, but ..... give me a little encouragement!!!
Nothing really major to report I suppose, still sharing the same bed and sorting the kids out. On holiday we had a few R talks (nothing big, she is still in limbo land) and we were also intimate. If she doesn't love me, would we do that?
During one of the conversations, she admitted that she had not seen OP since May, but that Counsellor had said it was alright to contact him. Maybe I was wrong, but I did do the 'I love you, but I'm not going to share - him or me' act (stupid I know).
In some ways, I hate this limbo more than anything. I cannot plan for the future, everything becomes last minute and life is placed on hold.
I suppose I expected too much of the holiday (not saying it wasn't good) and should retreat a bit and let time take it's course. It's now 5 months since she has seen him, but I suppose the excitement and addiction is still there.
On a positive note, W is cutting hours up to Christmas and will get to spend more time with children. In January she will move to a less stressful job closer to home, which might also help.
I think I will continue to work on me and try to make this Christmas soo different to last years.
On a further scary note (and this will be a biiiiiiig 180), I am going to enter for a marathon next year (Edinburgh), so fingers crossed - will also enter W so we can run together (or apart).
On holiday we had a few R talks (nothing big, she is still in limbo land) and we were also intimate. If she doesn't love me, would we do that?
IMO this is significant. Sex for women is very different than sex for men. It's more of an emotional "giving." This is positive, Paul.
Originally Posted By: Pamar
Maybe I was wrong, but I did do the 'I love you, but I'm not going to share - him or me' act (stupid I know).
I do not see this as a negative. Sometimes, you gotta be a MAN. Women like it when their man is willing to fight for them. IMO (maybe others will disagree - but I feel strongly about this one) this was absolutely the right thing. As we say in the US, "Sound off like ya got a pair!!" And you did. Good job.
Originally Posted By: Pamar
I suppose I expected too much of the holiday (not saying it wasn't good) and should retreat a bit and let time take it's course. It's now 5 months since she has seen him, but I suppose the excitement and addiction is still there.
Yes, yes, back off, and you will hear a lot less "whatever."
Originally Posted By: Pamar
On a further scary note (and this will be a biiiiiiig 180), I am going to enter for a marathon next year (Edinburgh), so fingers crossed - will also enter W so we can run together (or apart).
Whooo hooo... I have done one marathon in my life. Prepare yourself for grueling training... and the feeling of absolute joy of accomplishment when you finish!!! Aim high and go for it!!
) and we did have a few chats.