Hi, new here and my H is in MLC at 32.

[txbutterfly]

Here is a link to my thread over on the Newcomers board. My Story

I do think my H is going through MLC at 32. Any advice for me? I'd truly appreciate it. He doesn't "want" me sexually anymore & hasn't for a long time (he says) but says he loves me more than anyone in his whole life, will never love anyone the way he does me, etc. We're separated but we still have dinner together a couple of nights a week, he hugs me goodbye & last night he kissed me on the cheek for the first time in months. He tells me how cute I am (but then says he can't fig out why not dying to have sex with me). I am trying to focus on being his friend right now so he feels safe to open up to me emotionally again (we had bad fights before & he did not feel safe with me). Also NOT to pressure him, which is REALLY hard for me.
We are in MC and have been for about 2 months now, with what I'd say is about a 5% improvement. It is SLOW. I think most help has come from me being patient and open to listen without overreaction or judgment.

How much do I read into his positive behavior, when he still won't recommit to the M (yet) and keeps saying he doesn't see me "that way"? It kills me to hear him say that. I know I don't look at him as a major sex object after all these years...I guess I subscribe to the "do it, then I'll feel it" philosophy, rather than "feel it, then I'll want to do it"....but it still hurts like hell to hear your own H say that to you.