I realize that my sitch is like many others but I never got the chance to fight for my M and feel totally helpless.
At first I too thought I never had the chance to fight for my M either. My W, with no prior signs, talks or fights just got out of our bed in the middle of the night & left....At first it was shock...then came the poor me, the victim me & some anger...Then I took a good long look at me & what I had done to make my M go the way it had/has. When i came to terms with my roll in the failure, my anger/blame went & understanding came with the realisation that I had infact had more than enough chance to fight for my M.
You have to stop with the victim stuff & how your W is/has ruined your life etc. Theres a very good chance that your W just gave up on the M after years of whatever problems there may have been. One thing is certain, she saw a problem with the M & like it or not, just like everyone else here, you were part of that M & the problem.
For your sake my friend, you do need to take control of you. The anger & the blame is not having control of you. Accept what has happend & your part in it. Then & only then will you begin to move forward & have any chance of progress with your M & yourself.
My W & I are nowhere near being back together if you are wondering mate..However, one thing I can assure you is that, had I gone down the road of anger & blame, my sitch would be so much worse than it is now. At the moment my W & I remain friends & neither of us in the six months have pointed any blame at each other. Infact, my W would tell you herself that she is totally to blame for what has happened. I strongly believe that is because I avoided the blame game...Please, you should too, mate.
