Dom - I just posted to Sandi about two books that helped me. You may want to have a look at them and if you like them leave them somewhere near your W if she is a reader. Especially if she says she is unhappy. They might just make her want to get help.
One thing I would say is ignore any test results if you do the tests in the book. My psychologist tells me they are snippets of larger tests and by themselves do not tell you anything and come out with 'bad' results for most people. (In fact my H did them out of curiosity and they indicated he needed medical help and I have to say he is a fairly level and well balanced individual most of the time). It is the principles in the books that are important. They also have section relating to children.
If you want to leave a message for me my email is posted in my profile and my thread is called Saffie's sandbox - extension (and then whatever no. I am currently on - I think it's 8 or 9 at the moment).
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Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
