Yes, I am very angry that she chose to discuss our personal life and M with a total stranger. Our 15 years together is thrown aside for some "fantasy" that may or may not last. I realize that my sitch is like many others but I never got the chance to fight for my M and feel totally helpless.
Sure you did - You had 15 years. Just like I did. We didn't do it when we NEEDED to do it. Now we have to try to back our way into it through the mess and figure it out. I'm in basically the same position you are. Anger has NEVER helped me. Not at all. You need to fight for your W, but in the right way.
Her A will fail at some point. Statistically only a few percent of A's actually make it anywhere. The majority die out within six months or so. You just need to start to let it go, because there is nothing at all you can do to change it.
Originally Posted By: markyb
I am doing IC, coaching and everything else I can to deal with this. All she says is that she thought about it and cried over it but this is what she must do. I also really like the statement that our children "will adjust".
If you read DR again, you'll realize that she's talking in absolute negatives right now. Her anger is clouding everything, and it's easier for her to bail on the M if she hates you rather than if she still has an attachment.
