tremendously frustrating to believe to your core that you now have the tools to make a great M and R with your S and your S not being interested.
This is frustrating...as long as you actually have the tools. Having a better R with your spouse isn't as simple as reading a book. There is a fair amount of pride swallowing and realizing what your issues are and working on them.
You've got it wrong. This isn't just a place to just come and vent...not if you don't want to get beat up. If you want to write about what a terrible person your wife is being and how she's so terrible for destroying your life, etc, you can, but be prepared to be told when it's counterproductive and not really all that indicative of a man that is working on his issues. I see the continuous venting about how your W is doing this to you as as indicative of a person that isn't working on his issues....he would rather this just be his wife's issues. As Heimlich said, we can only go off of what you write, and so far, all I've seen is how messed up your wife is and how angry you are. My suggestion is to quit focusing on how wrong it is that she left and start focusing on working on yourself and paving the way to reconciliation, if she CHOOSES to try again with you.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
