I thought this was a place to vent. I do not want to come across as unattractive but where else can I have my say w/o being judged?? I am certain that many here feel as frustrated as me but don't want to put their thoughts on the board in such a way.
Venting is fine. We've all done it. It's part of the process. At some point you have to let go of the anger - It is REALLY not going to get you anywhere.
My W has been night/day different with me since I stopped being angry at her. Even when she does something that I'd previously blow up at, or at least be short with her, I instead talk to her about it and act out of love and friendship, rather than anger. You don't want to be a doormat, but you don't want to be a locked door either. She needs to know that you will be there for her, and that you're not going to hold everything that has happened against her, otherwise she's never going to turn around. It's hard to do. It's REALLY hard.
I say if you need to vent; vent away. Get it out of your system so your wife doesn't see it. But, by the same token, you need to show some initiative and figure yourself out, otherwise all you've got is your anger.
