Figured it is time to start my own thread again instead of hijacking others.
Current situation...
About a week ago, I asked W why she had seemed so distant recently and asked about scheduling a session with a different counselor. She said okay, but doesn’t think that she / we will get anything more out of it. She said she doesn’t think it will fulfill my expectations of finding a roadmap to correct the issues. We talked about the current counseling, and she said she hasn’t seen any improvement or change in attitude.
She then tells me that she went the other day to see a newe D attorney. Ugh.
She says that she doesn’t think there is a way to get back the feelings that should be there and she says she doesn’t want to try. She’s made up her mind and sees that the final resolution will be divorce. That she is just here now to get through the holidays so that it will be easier on the kids. She doesn’t want to commit to working through any program and is happy with how things are now. ???? How can anyone be happy with awkward and tense?? I told her that I couldn’t go through another three months of living like that and if she were sure that what she wanted was divorce, then why not just be done with it??
We talked about the kids a bit. I asked her if she thought that they were being affected by the situation. I told her that I thought I could see changes in our S. That he has been needy, clingy and whiney for a while now.
Her interactions with me for the past week have been very standoffish. It seems like she is almost trying to make thing unpleasant. Am working on myself now, but this is getting old.
