PS - remember 'SIlent Sons' and other books on dysfunctional families - it is a charactersitic of many people from dysfunctional families that they 'normalise' their experience. My h's younger sister who has dealt with many of her issues said their family life was a 'horror show' whereas my h says 'it was no worse than anyone else's life', even though he KNOWS what my upbringing was like. In fact he once shocked a friend rigid when we were listening to a funny play about a dysfucntional family, and my h said very quietly - 'it wasn't funny to me - it was too close to reality'.
Now he is in total denial about his appalling upbringing . .
