My Wife wants out..still!!

[Heimlich]

Mark,

Dude, we are all frustrated. I would love to, as someone wrote today, smack my W in the head with my copy of DR. Sure, it's tremendously frustrating to believe to your core that you now have the tools to make a great M and R with your S and your S not being interested.

That being said, no one is judging you. We've all acknowledged that you have every right to be angry. Vent away. However, you've been beating this horse for a while. It's not productive. If you're focused on this in your daily life, rather than just occassionally blowing off steam here, your W can feel that even if you're not expressing it to her.

You have two basic choices: 1. you can keep the focus on your W and blaming her for what she's doing or 2. you can start focusing on yourself and making yourself a more attractive person so that either your W becomes interested in coming back or someone else does down the road (with the occassional venting here).

We can only go by what we read. What I'm reading is someone very angry at his W. Blaming her because of the EA she's having (as hard as it is to accept, accept this: an A is a symptom, NOT the problem). Someone too focused on his W and trying to win her back.

For now, she's gone. Take care of yourself.

BD