You can stop beating now...I think the horse is dead.
You don't HAVE to do anything. You don't HAVE to walk on eggshells. And you are missing the point entirely. Your goal is to focus and work on yourself. You can choose to hold on to this anger and feel like your being picked on if you like, but it is really unattractive. This stuff coming through on the message board is a part of how you are. If we see it, your wife probably does also, and it's unattractive. Why would she come back just because you feel entitled to it? If you are walking on eggshells for her and kissing butt, but secretly seething about it, it isn't an actual change, it's just a ploy to get her back. Can you imagine if she actually came back to you thinking that you didn't have these issues?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
