Erm.... not quite sure how to say this...

still trying.... i think you majorly need to get your head straightened out.

This is going to be a very honest, "raw" post from me.




You "wonder why she thinks you're keeping her at arms length".
But you go chat up other women, and ignore her.

Then you TELL HER TO MAKE OUT WITH ANOTHER MAN.

Being the non jealous not needy man that I was I said "come on, that wasn't a 20 minute kiss"
There's "non jealous", and there's ... whatever the heck you did. That was just plain twisted.


I think I demonstrated my lack of neediness fairly well as she made out with a random guy and walked around topless and I didn't have issues with it.

She's your wife... you should have issues with it!!!


I'm really glad for the positive moments that you had with your wife. I hope that you can hang on to them, and let them help you with your motivation with the future.
I think you really need to rein in your whole "I'm not a needy guy" act, to something a little more sane, though.

It's one thing to choose to let your wife have some "freedom". It's another thing to encourage her to become some kind of spring break college girl though. wierd.

I hope you managed to have fun together more.
good luck \:\)


Last edited by Dom R; 10/29/07 03:45 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle