Hi - I've been posting in newcomers but I think I belong in MLC. I'm really not sure if my H is in a MLC because he's only 35 but it seems like he has the signs. I will make this short here is my story.........My H told me in March 07 thyat he loved me but was not in love with me and wants a D. I did all of usual stuff like crying, begging, pleading, telling him ILY and hugging him until he told me that it made him feel uncomfortable so I stopped. Then in August 07 I got a letter from Husbands L telling me to get a L. I tried again to talk to H about it but he just gets mad and wont really talk about why he doesn't love me he just says that I didn't show him enough love then he told me he is seeing someone. I am just crushed because I love him so much and it was just such a shock because I had no idea anything was wrong. I bought Micheles books and I asked H to go to counseling with me but he wont he said this can not be fixed and wants a D. He emailed me about 2 weeks ago asking if I found a L yet so I went out and got one. My L says he has no grounds for D but H seems to really want one. We have been together for 17 years and married for 6 of them and we have a 3 year old S and H still lives at home. I guess I just need some advice as to what is going on and what to do because like I said I still love him and do NOT want a D. My H has been so different since this started back in March I mean he is a totally different person like an alien and I just cant get through to him. For the last month I have been trying to give him space and have not brought up R or the OW but it doesn't seem to help he just seems even more distant then ever. My H used to be the best guy in the whole world and the way he is acting is so out of character for him. Can someone please give me some advice because I'm so lost and confused and just dont know what is happening. Any advice would be so appreciated. Thank you so much for listening.
