Sex and the WAS/MLCer

[saffie]

My H had erectile problems with OW not with me. Guilt was his problem.

When I found out about the A I initiated ML for me, (sex I guesss for him at that point). He tried to reject me but then found he couldn't. I do beleive it was a bit of a turning point for him. Before that time over the preceeding 18 months things had slowed down badly between us. I was suffering from depression and although was aware of the lack of intimacy I was trying to work on H and I interacting on a relationship level rather than a sexual level. H has always been the sort of person, (like myself), who didn't want to be intimate if we weren't getting on. Sex with Ow during Reminding him how good it was between us was the right thing to do. As far as I am concerned OW was the one who shouldn't have sex with my H NOT me.

I don't think I could have gone on for a prolonged period though with him doing cake eating. Infact as far as I am aware he was never intimate with OW again after our ML after dropping the bomb. I guess I am very lucky that it all went on whilst I wasn't really aware. I just wish he had kept the whole sordid thing a secret. Living with it still hurts so much. I think the betrayal is worse than the physical act.

saffie