I know!! Mark would definately stop H in his tracks.
And yep, today is Day #1 of LWB finding child care for her kids for every single time she works/he works, NOT leaving it up to H. NO ONE wants to hear that in 8 hours, 2 more kids (mine) will be dropped off at your (SIL's) house, when she already had a bunch of other nephews and nieces. Granted, sometimes more is less (they entertain each other), but a little notice would help.
No Stay and chill!!! We must see the slice of comedy in all of this BS!!! Seriously. If we can joke about it then we are still human.
OK I know this is what is secretly making some of the dudes be nice to mebesides beer goggle. I am kind of school marmy Ugly betty. I also have her hair and personality. I suspect that the fact that I can joke about my separation if it ever comes up really puts me in a positive light. Like it makes me more approachable because I have not become a bitter man hater. Which of course you all know I really am!
Let the mudslinging begin.
That ass totally called me twice today to kiss my grits. HOPEFULLY< that Oprah speech I gave him really sunk in but if there is another friggin bomb, uuugghh. I will move to Dublin Ireland and swim in Jameson and Guinness for two straight months.
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
It just seems like all our H's have just really gone off the deep end once and for all. I'm so sorry. He is such an idiot.
The whole cookie thing is just rediculous. He does so little as a parent. Here you are helping the kids make HIM cookies and he has to take a stab like that. Disgusting.
My H made a point of making sure S2 was going to be a "cute" spider and not a scary one. Give me a break, buddy. I'm not the one who's become an alien.
Whatever.
LOL, about swimming in Jameson and Guinness. DB meet up in Dublin!!! Woooo hoooo!!!
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
mk, men hit on you because you are funny, smart, and have no idea how cute you are.
your H is just nuts. he is. lol about the image in dublin, though. have this whole visual of him looking for you and the the scene flashing to you literally swimming in guinness. lol
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
H says the only reason he has not filed is because of his training at his new job and why don't I just do it. H says he never has time to file. Sounds like he really wants to file to be free with OW. Yet H always has told friends and me he is not happy with his sitch with OW. Kind of like hating it when you are an alcoholic but you drink that six pack for breakfast anyways. Very sick indeed. I feel done. Kind of relieved to be rid of a bad man. Just regret having to deal with him being the father of my kids. I have no attraction and really no love left in the ole love bank. Nice and convenient to be able to flirt with single dudes. Just for practice anyways. I am detached now what to do about trick or treating. My thought is to continue keeping my turf dark. I do not want a cheating H in my kids safe place. Nor do I want an unstable verbally abusive spouse in my private home so I guess that means he can take them to the mall or just stay away all together.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
yep, understand about regretting having to deal with him for the rest of our lives. sucks. but hopefully over time it will get easier. we certainly can't change it, unless they were suddenly out of our kids lives. I know I don't want that for them. and I don't want to turn into that couple who can't go to the graduations/weddings/etc because the ex will be there.
sucks.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
I'm starting to think my H is going to drop out of the kids lives. He hasn't seen them in over two weeks now. It is easier this way. My kids are young and they are ok. I know it will hurt when they get older. They will never understand. I don't understand either.
This is the hardest part. No matter what, we will always be connected to these men. It does get easier in a way, but it is always a hassle (in my experience with S9's dad). We have it pretty good. We are "friends" and our families get along. I get along with his wife. She treats S9 well. It is as good as it can be, 7 years after our break up, but it is stil hard.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
