I haven't read all the way through your sitch so forgive me if I am repeating stuff you have already gone through, but has your wife ever sought any sort of treatment for her stress? Would she seek treatment?
saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength