impossible situation #2

[Dom R]

sandi: I know she cares about me to some degree. So, the question of "how can I do that knowing how she feels about me..." is a little murky.
If I KNEW she was having sex with someone else, it would be a lot different.

[PS: when she moved out, it was all "I'm going to divorce you" hatred. there was no sex or anything close, for at least...
6 months?]


sara: i would LOVE to make it more... erm... blatant?
I think we could have even more fun than we already do.

Thing is... we never (either of us) say, "we're going to have sex". It just kinda "Happens". It's very much just a hormonal release thing (at least for her). She wont kiss me.

I think it could be a whole lot of extra fun, if my dear W would be up front about "ok, yes we're separated, but sex between us is fun, so we're going to keep doing it".

Trouble is... I know she doesnt want to do that. In fact, some times, she gets very anxious/regretful afterwards. She goes into "I'm not sure i'm comfortable with this" mode sometimes.

So, unfortunately, we're not at the "acknowlege we have sex" point. I am frequently on the "i wonder if we're going to have sex again" point.

It's too bad, really. 'cause I still very much enjoy being intimate with her. And on a physical level, she seems to appreciate that I still know how to "press her buttons"

She's a real stress puppy, too... she could definately use a more regular stress relief!