You all are so right on. At my last attempt to win back my ex, I wrote him a letter, and broght to light the issues he was going to have with future women. I told him that chances were greater that he would end up with someone with kids and an ex-husband. I tried to make him understand that, and for a moment, he said that he would give it some thought.

Our marriage was salvageable...neglected, but it could have been saved. At least, at the time, we were still best friends. We had the makings for a good solid marriage. In the end, he opted out. I may be wrong for wishing this, but I hope he ends up with a woman with horrible kids and a wicked ex-husband. I want him to go through what I went through.

When we first married, he had a wicked ex-wife and an unstable son, who later turned horrible. I went through a lot with his ex and his kid. But none of it mattered to him in the end. If your spouses are determined to divorce you, that's exactly what they are going to do. There is no stopping them, no matter how many DB techniques you apply.

I wish people who applied these techniques and saved their marriage would post here. I've read success stories on this forum, but where are the posters? Why don't they post here often? The best thing that came out of my DB techniques was that I was able to get on with life. The book gave me hope while I was in limbo, but I'm wondering if these techniques work at all.

My best to all of you.
alamogirl


Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb)
H - 43
married - 16 Jul 94
no children
1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06
2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06
H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06
Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07