Time for healing without closing the door

[Bill_S]

CMC,
Tell him the truth..why you cant go with him. If he needs an explanation, give him some examples if he needs them. Just look him square in the and with no sadness..."NO". He will eventually respect you for it..whatever my come. Mine did when (after some time passed) bc I put my foot down and said enough is enough and heres why. REMEMBER.....No doormatiness!!

If you do go with him..ground-rules..ground-rules..ground-rules!!

Its time to show him just how strong you really are!!! You just may get a bad reaction, but its better than feeling the way you do and living with it.

BTW...I bought tickets to a concert for us. Not long after she asked for a divorce. A month before the concert I asked what she wanted to do with the tickets...did she want them. Since she didnt like being around me now I didnt want to go. She said we should keep them, "because we have no idea where we will be then..we may still be able to go." I decided to give them to her. Later I decided since it was the band I liked and I paid for the tickets and this whole thing was her fault, why give them to her.
So screw her reaction, I wanted them. She didnt react badly like I thought she would. I ended up not going but I felt much better about standing up for what was right. And it probably was the beginning of her respecting me.

I wish I could be more help.