So are you saying that you did have sex with your H during S? Even though there was an OW?
Had I known OW was still in the picture, I would not have had sex with him. Emotionally, it's beyond my limit to handle something like this. My H was testing the waters, keeping a foot ( okay, more than a foot) in both doors. He was trying to come back but was still addicted to the chemical rush of being with OW, and he was so nuts then, he was trying to find a way to " have it all."
