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Oh that angry face!!! Spare me. They must all go to the same seminar. What do they have to be angry about really? That we poo-poo their affairs? HMPH.


LMAO I just got that today too. HMMM, you're angry because..... you're screwing up about as bad as you possibly can and I'm the stable one who is calling you on it?

Like you said, Spare me. Spare us.

LWB's right Jarhead, they're out there.

I just can't figure out where the one I was married to went. She's not HERE.


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"Cougars?" Never heard of that. Had never heard of a MILF either until H's friend told me I was that -- but that's another story.

Like I told Forlorn, blasting their a$$ may be what they need at this particular moment!


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lwb... I wouldn't classify you as a cougar.. I'm 32 and you're 36.. that's within my range!! \:\)

These ladies were late 40's, early 50's. Not that there is anything wrong with that... just not these!! \:\)



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OK... so not really sure what's going on now. I'm extremely upset with her and not really interested in talking to her. I called D's in the evening and of course they were heading to OM's. Evidently they spent the day together playing. Whatever...
She calls later (evidently they only stayed a little bit) to ask me about something, and I answered the questions and whatnot but I was short and got off the phone quickly.

She called last night while I was over at a friends, so I let it roll to VM. Evidently the farrier was coming out today and she wanted to know if I could run a check out to the barn for her. User.. no thanks. I called and left her a VM that I couldn't.

Haven't heard anything from her today.. didn't even call when she was taking oldest D to school.

I had texted her earlier about something she asked me to help her with.. no response.

I've also stopped taking the Zoloft. Don't like how it affects my normal routine. 2 days now... hopefully I can normal out soon.

Hope you all are having a good day!!



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So W calls... I get so frustrated with her.. she still expects me to pay for everything... doesn't listen to me.. and I mean doesn't hear what I'm saying. I say the sky is blue and she says "What color is the sky"

Anyway.. she gets mad because I'm taking the D's to a couple of places.. she launches into how I'm trying to outdo her. I'm so sick of that.. I told her she needs to stop getting her nails done every week. Then she goes into this "I want to be friends with you and maybe work things out"

I blew up... she doesn't want to be friends.. or.. she wants me to be her friend when she wants it.

I told her I've lost respect for and I'm not sure I want to work things out. She fired back with "What about what you've done to me"

I'm so sick of hearing about that too... she instantly launches that excuse every single time. We basically hung up on each other.

Then she sends me a text "I'm a good person and I won't let you put me down.. you used to say I meant something.. you are still to me!! Have a good night"

Whatever.. so full of crap

I responded:

"And you are... I just don't agree with what you are doing and I don't like the way you have been treating me. You keep using what I did to you as an excuse... Are you ever going to take responsibility for your part? It wasn't all me. I know I hurt you and I know I've had screw ups. You won't admit your part and you've given us no chance to work on things. What do you expect me to do. I bet you still haven't gotten counseling. I'm done. Get your lawyer to do what they need. We need the separation agreement then we can do the divorce."

I'm tired of this ride and I want off.

I deserve better than this.



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Wow jar. Did she respond? I love what you said in that text, it was worded perfectly. I wonder if it will shake her up, sounds like it might. I hope you are ok tonight.

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What is she talking about as far as what you did to her? I guess I missed that somewhere.

I truly think your W wants back in, but she probably feels really stupid right now and her pride is keeping her from doing what she wants to really do. I think you telling her to "take a flying leap" could be exactly what she needs.

Be careful w/ going off the Zoloft cold turkey.


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Yeah... you could be right. We had some other texts after that, but nothing big.

As for the Zoloft.. I was only on 50MG... after she moved out my anxiety level was more than the Zoloft was covering, but I was able to level that off. I'm at that level now, but it's not going to last long.

I kind of expected her to call after school this evening. Alas.. no call. It's those things that make me think twice about this.



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Wow that was a powerful message to send to her. Curious to see what her response will be. But every powerful as in that won;t stand around and be her doormat while she toys with you.

To me that sounds like what she is doing. She is trying to string you along just enough to keep you interested and give you hope. So that you won't walk away completely. Because right now she is having fun. She has two men doting on her. Maybe this will turn her around. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

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If I am correct in this, I bet her heart & her stomach were up in her throat when she read that text. She's going to have to "do" something one way or the other now. I too feel she's just playing games w/ you and I think that's crap, as this is not high school, you are her HUSBAND for goodness sake.


Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10
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