Well, I have to ask something here that is about the same as I asked last time. Why would you want her back? Let's be honest here. If she is at this age and has not changed, do you really think she ever will? I have known people like her that stay that way their entire life....b/c they want to be that way, Dom. They like being that way! They don't want to change and you are crazy for sitting around hanging your head hoping that she will. She isn't going to change for you, her children or even herself. Get it? She likes being the way she is! She can call it control or whatever.....and she can "blame" you until the cows come home, but she ain't a gonna change one thing about herself! You need to forget it and go on living. No.....I mean you need to start living b/c you sure aren't now! I respect the way you feel and believe in M.....I really do, but sweetie some people are hopeless and I think you've got one gal that is never going to forgive you or anyone else in her life that she thinks she can keep dangling while she pulls the puppet strings. You aren't living Dom! You spend your life sitting here in front of your computer reading all these threads night after night. As much as we appreciate your feedback to our posts.....you really need to do something else in your life. It breaks my heart that you are wasting away your life waiting around to see what kind of "mood" she is going to be in or if she will drop you a crumb from time to time. That is not a life! Yes, I can understand setting a role model for your kids, but my gosh, they will have a life of their own and believe me.....whether you stay legally M to your W or not.....is not going to determine if they stay M or not. I think you are using that as an excuse. My D has been divorced three times and her dad and I have been married 42 years in December. Did it keep her from divorcing? Nope. All her grandparents were M for many years and never any of them D. On the other hand, you can take other people that come from D homes that stay together forever.
It's time to move on DomR. You need to get a life, sweetie! Can you really say she is worth it? How and why would you want to live with somebody who could/would never forgive somebody? That is not saying much for her except she is very self-centered and will be a hateful and very bitter old woman some day that nobody can stand to be around.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
