Help me thru this sitch

[Pudmuddle]

Hi Neph,

I think I am off to a good start to, so thank you for noticing! I think my guardian angel was watching out for me and sent me DB just in the nick of time. (I hope).

You are right, the 180s are hard for me, but I did have a revealing one while writing in my journal last night. I realized that in the past, when he comes in and asks me something, I just gave an indifferent answer and that was that. Also I remembered that when I would go out by myself or with friends and I as out all night, I would be careless about letting him know where I was and what I was doing. So I think he feels like he lost some of that control (knowing if I was safe and ok). So now I am wondering if one of my 180s is to let him know exactly what I am doing, where I am and when I will be home, do you think? Also, I am now practicing being more responsive in our convos, being a reflective listener and showing him interest by explaining my days in more detail than I used to. Because thinking back a few years, I used to get so angry because he would call him mom or sister just to talk about his day, and I could NOT figure out why he wasn't telling me! But now I get it! D'oh!

And unfortunately Neph, I am a sarcastic person by nature, but I have become aware that with his self esteem looming low, this just hits him hard, no that he tells me, but I can see it now. So I have been working on being a nice and proper lady when speaking, lol.

I'm still having a hard time with the LL and figuring his out, but I am working on that as well. He did offer to read the book, but it is still sitting in the furthest corner of his room as if it has the plague. But, the small positive here :), I see that at least it is IN his room and he will see it and maybe secretly read some of it soon.

Thanks for coming to my post Neph! Maybe I can read yours soon.