Separated and W has a BF.

[Larrynarry]

That's what I'm hoping.

So.. yesterday I was away all day. Spent most of the day at my parents house fixing their CPU. W called and chatted about kids.. no big deal. Called D's at specified time and they of course don't want to talk to me because OM and his kids are there to watch D's.
She doesn't get home from school till about 10, so I don't even want to think about who stayed where.

She calls on her way back from school and is wondering where I'm at and who I'm with. Talked about school etc.

Had a TON of fun last night... won't get into detail, but my PMA is HUGE right now.

W calls while taking D to school. She's asking if I've been talking with OM's ex.. which I haven't. Since the last episode, I've not contacted anyone from that little circle. I'm done with them.

I told W this, and evidently, someone has been giving his ex some info that she's not happy with. Not sure what it is.. not sure I care.. evidently it's causing some problems between him and his ex. Boo Hoo.

W is very distant and cold... like I'm an afterthought. I'm keeping it light.. not sure really what to do anymore.

[theforlornhope]

Hey Jarhead, it's good to hear from another Marine, sorry it's here.

You sound like you're doing good with the GAL and PMA. I'm fluctuating on that right now.

She seems pretty worried about who your out with, maybe that's a good sign. Maybe she's worried about the door closing behind her.


Stay Strong,

Semper Fi

[Larrynarry]

Semper Fi my brother!!!

So today I had to get FIL's truck and some things to take the trailer down south tomm, and W calls. She's at her place and wants me to stop by. I was headed home anyway so I did.

We talked while she ran on the treadmill. She kept saying she was fat and depressed and how I looked so good and probably had girlfriends etc. She's killing me with this. She looks freakin hot!! OM calls while I'm there and she quickly brushed him off. There was flirting back and forth.. she kept looking at me.. TMI, but it was interesting.

She did say that she didn't want me to close the book on her.. I honestly didn't know what to say. More alien spew.

Several other flirty things happened and she asked me to help with something on her computer which is in her BR.. she said "Yeah.. we're going to romp first" Jokingly, but she was kind of serious.

Well.. I can only take so much teasing and baiting, and we ended up on the bed.. she quickly turned things down though. I made the mistake of pushing a little, but I don't think there was any harm done.

She said she enjoyed the talk and we should do it more often. I'd like to, but she's always been to busy with OM and his kids.

UGH.. Ebb and Flow... Ebb and Flow

[theforlornhope]

Bro, I'm far from an expert here, in fact, quite the "recruit." I have to say though, that I find her fluctuating interest in you very motivating. Jody doesn't sound like all that much of a dream cruise for her.

I like the flirting and the "don't close the book."

Don't sweat TMI, it's the same intel that you'd pass on to your l/cpls so they can help you make a good op plan. (we just have to clean it up a bit, .)

I'm pretty inexperienced, but the teamates here have the t-shirts, and can tell us what to look for before we step on it.

Well.. I can only take so much teasing and baiting, and we ended up on the bed.. she quickly turned things down though. I made the mistake of pushing a little, but I don't think there was any harm done.

No harm no foul, but arrghrrr, that sounds frustrating. Better than than the ice queen though.

She said she enjoyed the talk and we should do it more often. I'd like to, but she's always been to busy with OM and his kids.

Jody gointa keep screwin up, and you'll still be around! Discipline, Honor, Motivation.

Ebb and flow, good watchwords.

It's been a tough year for Marines; I just had a reunion with 3 guys from my old unit in Denver to get my head on straight.

I'm on the fast track to Divorce, 2 boys
#2 (Plt Cmdr) moved for a new job, set his fiance' up in a business w/ vehicles, to have her decide she's not moving, and she wants to date other guys outside of the R now.
#3 lost his job and d*&n near his house, narrowly recovered from Divorce, 4 kids.
#4 wife of 15 yrs developed a second bout w/ breast cancer. Doesn't want out, but 2 kids also.


Semper Fidelis my brother!!!

[Larrynarry]

So.. quick update.. Shortly after I left, W texts me to call the D's on her cell at 6:30. We all know what that means.
Call D's at specified time and of course they are OM's and happy to be there. W seemed upset.. maybe because she knew I'd be upset. I acted as if and got off the phone with her as quickly as possible.
Went out and hung out with a good buddy of mine. Not much of a pool player, but did fairly well last night. Live band, had a really good time. Met a 38 year old cutie.. we'll see what happens there.

Man forlorn!! I haven't heard that kind of talk in a long time. Been out since 99. You still active? If so, thank you for protecting my freedom!

I've got to take our horse trailer to TN today, but when I get a chance I'll read up on your sitch and see if I can provide any help.

Thanks all.. have a great weekend!!

[theforlornhope]

Man that's gotta be tough to act as-if when you know they're at the OMs house.

Sounds like you're doing a good job w/ GAL, keep it up. I wish I had gotten with the program so quickly back when my STBXW had her EA.

I got out in 2000. I don't really talk like that, I just thought it'd bring some things back for ya.

Have a great trip.

[Larrynarry]

OK.. so trip went well. I must say that I'm enjoying the more attention that I'm getting.

So.. whilst on my travels the cute 38 yr old starts texting me. We chatted for a while and talked on the phone. She finally asked about my sitch which I told her about. She seemed OK and was basically saying "friends" that's fine with me!!

So.. in all of this.. no word from W. Not a text, call, nothing.

Get back from trip and 38yr old and I have been flirting back and forth. Talked with D's.. W shows no interest.

Go to halloween party.. good time, watched the Buckeyes kick butt. Get texted from 38yr old that I should meet her at a local bar. I agree and meet her there. Had fun, until she ditched me. Yep.. I got ditched. I'm starting to think all women are evil. She didn't even have the guts to ditch me in person.. a friend of hers invited me over to their table and said "Hang out with us" "OK.. so and so will be back.. she went to pick up her friend" "Is that what she told you?? She's gone to another bar"

All right ladies.. what's up with that???

Anyway.. scene got real ugly as a bunch of cougars started fighting over me.. had to leave. Yuck!!

So today I got a Futon (yes!! finally something to sit on larger than a bean bag chair!!) and a new bed set (sheets etc)

W calls and wants her portion of the trailer money. NP.. Head to her place and D's go nuts.. hugs and kisses.. mommy is mean.
W is upset.. "Girls love you more.. you should take them"
Boo Hoo.. blah blah.

Oldest D... "Daddy... we got to stay at OM's 2 days in a row!!"

B-E-A-Utiful. Next comment W made about how the kids hate her and she's a pee on, I blow up. First she said "I want you out".. when I asked "What?" that's when she made the other comments and I exploded.

I told her she needed to get her head on straight and she's only confusing the D's by spending the night over at OM's. No wonder they are acting out. Funny.. they don't do that here. Oh yeah.. other than Psycho W, this place is pretty stable.

DUH!!

Sorry to vent, just coming to the realization more and more that maybe W isn't all she's cracked up to be. This could be a blessing in disguise. I can tell you though.. the dating scene SUCKS!!!

Hope you all have had better days than I!!

[LL44]

I love the way you write, my man. You have humor yet convey the hardship you are going through. Amazing.

I can't believe your wife thinks its appropriate to have the girls spend the night around OM!! I can totally see my H doing this, but he can't because OW is married with kids the same ages. He would justify it as a big sleepover. Gross, barfy, blecky!!! Its just so wrong. You are a stronger person than I, I would have gone OFF had I found that out. You were calm and tried to rationalize with the alien. Tried to get her to see:

putting kids in uncomfortable positions = acting out

DER!!!

I am so sorry about the stand up too, what is up with that??? Cougars are older women right? I am a cougar, I am 36. lol It was good they fought over you but glad you ran.

[theforlornhope]

While I agree, getting ditched stinks, don't sweat it. There's more where she came from.

It's not funny, but I almost laughed when I read that you blew up on her, and started wondering if she's all she's cracked up to be.

You see, I just completely detonated on mine yesterday, even though I went into the conversation telling myself I wouldn't. We were having a discussion (disagreement,) about moving after the divorce. She asked "How am I being selfish?" OOPs, there I went, both barrels. I really f'd up, maybe unrecoverably.

Then, this morning she had her angry face on, I was looking at her (whoever she is,) thinking "I don't know if I want to be with this new person anymore."

The blow-ups do happen, but you just have to keep on DBing. That part's mostly about us anyway. I feel your pain on the doubting part. I guess that's the big question.

This is the perfect place to vent. It's better to do it here than in front of them. (I wish I could have stopped myself yesterday, what a hypocrite.)

[LL44]

Then, this morning she had her angry face on

Oh that angry face!!! Spare me. They must all go to the same seminar. What do they have to be angry about really? That we poo-poo their affairs? HMPH.

PS: If you have kids (not sure), my D5 always asks me when someone honks at us in traffic, "Mom did you pack your angry eyes, just in case?" (from Toy Story, re: Mr. Potato Head). Sometimes I feel like our spouses are always packing their angry eyes.

jar, wanted to say, don't let that woman scare you even more about women in general. Look how many on here are faithful and caring. They are out there, just like there are men like DB men out there too.