I'm seeing light, now what?

[BeingMe]

I guess as long as it all plays out the right way, it doesn't matter.

I think it does matter, Phoenix! It matters, because if we didn't learn from negative actions we have made (which we LBS'ers are trying to do, so one would assume our WAS'ers should also put in the effort of learning from their mistakes), then there is the possibility of it being repeated. And, that would be really a waste of time and effort, IMHO. I feel, sometimes, that I am caught up in a continuous loop with my H, 'cause I don't think he learned anything (just wants to forget about it and move on) from his betrayal, and so there is the possibility he will do it again. He might white-knuckle it for awhile, but I do think there is the potential he will rationalize his way into another A. Time will tell in my sitch, as in yours, I guess.

Otherwise, I am really chuffed that things are moving in a more positive direction for you.