I hope that you can continue to detach while being in the presence of H. I know you've done it before, and I know that you can do it again. It's not something you can just turn on and off. It takes practice. Doing things over and over until it becomes more natural. I also think that part of the problem is your expectation of H. If you haven't made texting in the house a boundary, then you need to expect nothing from H..and it's almost the opposite, we should actually expect H to BE texting so that when you do catch him, it is not a suprise and therefore the hurt would be less.
It is ironic how the H and their EA/PAs involve different forms of communication. Texting was what my H did with OW as well, and he started doing it more with me. I think a LOT of guys like texting. It makes it much easier on them. Do you have text capability on your phone? I think it might be interesting to text him next time instead of calling or whatever you normally do when you need to contact him.
I know I'm still giving you ideas for the option of trying to fix the M, but until your actually out and have decided to quit, I'm gonna still focus on you saving your M. Cause I haven't lost hope yet.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Cause I haven't lost hope yet.
