The Course of an Affair

[GainingStrength]

Lin - I am so glad to hear your success story! Sometimes, as in your case, it just takes so long. It's possible that something close to a mental breakdown is necessary to make the WAS understand that changes in themselves are necessary.

I'm at four months and counting since the affair came to light. She comes out of the fog a little more often now but then goes right back in, reconfirming her long range plans to be with the OM for ever and ever. It may be that your H took so long to recover because he did not have enough contact with the OW because of the distance. I think that reality actually sets in more quickly the more time they spend together. Makes it harder to keep the illusion in place and the euphoria going.

It's been smoky here in south OC from both the OC and San Diego fires. Even today, you can smell it.

Take care.

LL