Hey,. morgan.... it's intesting that you mentioned that your H grew up without a dad.

That's probably why he thinks it's just fine for him to basically abandon your kids. Becuase he views a dad as superfluous in a family, rather than being a crucial part of one.

Might also explain why he felt burdened by them. He lacks the inner role model.

(plus, to be honest: 3 year olds arent as much interest to most males, as older children. A guy has to be very much "in touch with his feminine (and UNSELFISH) side", to enjoy being around 3 year olds. Whereas 5 year olds are more fun from a strictly male perspective)

My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle