I'm going to distance myself today. I don't know how to proceed....like I said, it doesn't appear the books have much advice about a spouse wanting to come home without real work.
At some point, it might be helpful if you were prepared with some kind of list, of what YOU dont want to see in your marriage any more. Try not to get into specific solutions, but just say what things are not "ok" for you any more.
Then sit back, and let him think about solutions for them by himself. Then at least, he has a target to aim for. After that, it could be up to him how to hit it, and whether he wants to work that hard.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
