Luv, its not necessarily a bad thing he can't come to the house. He is feeling threatened/controlled, if he came by now (and you guys were alone), then it would probably turn ugly. Now is the time to make it 'safe' for him to come visit (if you want him to). Start paving a new road, a safe road, for him. If he picks up the kids, enjoy your alone time and don't worry. Neph is right, they know deep down they don't want to take the kids (to Cali) and that it would be so wrong to do so. They want to hurt us, but they won't use the kids.
