Mattie you are so right. It still amazes me that your m and mine and so many others can sound so much a like. My H was from a family of 9 (8boys and 1girl) They are very strong and have always been successful in what they do. But they are competitive and when they were growing up there wasn't much money and not a lot of love in their family. I think as a one of the middle ones that has a lot to do with it. He has turned into his dad and it sounds like his Grandfather. They both ended up with no friends and just not happy people. He always tries to make you better. YOu need to loose weight, you need to get on top of things more. I think now knowing what I do I think he would have wanted a divorce along time ago but couldn't face not having the boys and I would not let anyone else be around my kids. I almost wish we would have now. We had a friend one time I would have married in a heart beat but as all good married people I kept all my thoughts to myself. I just always thought that I was married for life. I knew my h was the one I wanted. That friends wife left him for a scum bag guy and then dropped him but he has found a lady now that makes him happy and we are still very good friends. H is not best friends with him because he has given up all our friends because they don't serve a purpose in his life. That friend has been like a brother to me which as had helped tremdously. ONe thing I do have is a great bunch of friends and some of them are actually my H family. Mattie (((HUGS) to you. YOur H does not know what he is loosing
