I feel the same way ... although I know my H has not had our D around OW. I would be livid! But our D is 14 and knows enough about the sitch to not want to be with OW. And, my H knows this.
I wonder if it is some sort of child abuse. It can be emotionally bruising for kids who are old enough to wonder what is going on, especially if mom and dad are having problems in the first place.
My H has spent time with OWs kids. One is around 12 and he seems to be somewhat attached to her. But this child apparently has issues; he commented once that he would not want to live with that. Another good thing for me!
On the other hand, it has totally pissed me off when H has blown off time to be with his daughter, to be with OW.
