Dom, it actually has been a good group and experience. We don't sit around in a circle and talk, it's basically a social group so we are going out and doing stuff either as adults or with our kids. So that's really good but bad too because adult only outings can often involve alcohol. It's something I am glad I did because I've learned a lot about the legal process, single life, gotten great emotional support, had a lot of good fun, made some great friends and have people around that understand.
Of course it has it's drawbacks, there can be a lot of negativism at times, it does keep separation and divorce front and center, everyone seems to have excessive drama in their lives and because it's a large, very tight knit group it can be a bit cliquish with drama like high school.
But it's biggest drawback is exactly what you pointed out, way too much divorce or justification of divorce. I hear all too often, yeah I tried to save my marriage but at some point you will figure out you will be better off if you give that idea up. So I am pretty much a loner on the divorcebusting front. There are a couple of people that either really understand divorce busting or are trying themselves. Interestingly the ones that are very supportive all have been divorced more than once!
So as I type all of this I realized that I've withdrawn from the group unintentionally and that may have a lot to do with why I feel as if the friends there aren't anywhere to be found. I've actually not gone on any of the groups official outings in over a month. Last night they had a family outing and all went to this great haunted house then dinner afterwards. I was here at home with my kids.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
