Have you looked at the MLC forum and resources at all?
Some of the ladies over there are real strong and have loads of good advice. Brandnewday and some of the others has H's similar to yours and even worse and they came back.
I don't know how long you want to go with this but it might be worth chatting to some of them.
Your H seems to be doing and saying some typical MLC stuff. Rewriting history etc.
saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength