As I see it compassion and friendship are two words that have been deleted from the MLCer vocabulary.
My H hasn't an understanding of either word anymore, he doesn't recognise compassion in writing, he sees everything as a direct personal attack, I stopped passing info on about our son who has a disability, because he just didn't respond. Info I thought he would want as a father was disreguarded, inevitably it has been 20 months since he asked about his sons health.
From all the legal correspondance I have recieved he is clearly set out to get every penny he can, no matter who he takes it from, he doesn't seem to realise that he is hurting people.
I so hope the judge sees through all this, in the UK behaviour from either party isn't taken into account, it seems that although H has committed adultery twice, run up loads of debt, taken leave of absence as a father, lied through his back teeth throughout his declaration to the court, none of this will be taken into account, they will only look at his finances as they stand now.
I know this is nothing to do with the thread but it just highlights that the LBS means little to the MLCer, that it is clearly all about them. I'm so glad that he doesn't want sex with me, I would feel totally abused, I don't know how LBS cope with such a situation.
Our legal system, although fair, can leave the LBS without a voice, i just live in hope that one day H remembers and realises what he has done, he has hurt so many, including the OW.
