Gracey, What a nice surprise to hear from you. Like Hope said we were just talking and wondering about you the other day. I'm glad you have gotten to a good place in your life. Please update us more often.
My H and I have been seeing each other quite a bit. I'm not sure where it will end up.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Wow! I am so glad to hear that you were wondering about me Hope and YoYo! It feels good to know that there are so many people out there that care about me. I continue to do well. I did have a breakdown this past week. Not sure why, but maybe it is because it has been a year since everything has happened. Also, I have tremendous anger against my H. I am so pissed that he has left me a struggling single mom of twins. I went for a 8 mile walk today and that left me feeling less stressed. I just have to make sure that i keep up with the walking. I always feel much better. He still continues to be the jerk that he is. I know that someday, I would like to be on a somewhat civil terms for our kids, but I just don't see it happening. He has such a problem with thinking that he is right and continues to lie. I just have to continue to avoid him as much as possible. I wish that the D was final, but we have an Alternative Dispute Resolution in two weeks and hopefully he will start settling on some things then. If not, then it goes to trial, which will cost more money. It is money that neither of us have. He thinks that he doesn't owe me anything.
Hope, I was shocked to see that your H has the OW pregnant. I am so sorry about this. I know that you have had a rough road and I hope that you are continuing to focus on yourself. You will only find happiness within yourself. You are such an amazing person, don't ever forget that.
YoYo, wow. I am happy to see that you and your H are seeing each other more. Keep us posted on how things are going. I wish the best for you and pray that it will turn out the way you would like it too.
I have actually wondered how your were doing as well. I will continue to check in every now and then. I think I had to let things go for awhile and really start discovering me. The journey is still rocky once and awhile but I have overcome so much, that I know at the end, I wil find the true happiness that I deserve.
The babies are doing awesome. I just cannot get over their personalities and growth. Sometimes, I look at them and think, how could their dad do what he did? But it isn't anything I can change, so I just keep striving to do the best as much as possible.
Now for my two beautiful babies! They are both talking a lot and forming some phrases and sentences. My daughter is having a hard time with "S" so she says sock with a "F" instead of a "S". The first time I heard her, I was shocked, because I didn't realize she was saying sock. I actually laughed behind a door, because it sounded so funny. I have been trying to get her to say it with a "S". I just hope she doesn't say it in public. As for my son, he is becoming a boy more and more each day. He likes to rough play and run around like crazy. He has really been into cars lately. They are both very lovable and give me hugs and kisses all the time. This is the best feeling ever. Thank you for asking about them.
I hope all works out YoYo. Continue to focus on yourself and you will only continue to feel better. Do things that make you feel good about you. This is what I have been doing and I have met so many wonderful people. Keep me posted. Take care of yourself, you are what matters.
Awww...that is so cute about your daughter's speech, until you're out in public. Ha! That could be embarassing. I remember being embarassed a few times by my DDs. I guess it comes with motherhood. LOL
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
gracey - Seems like your twins help you keep your mind off what a jerk your H has been. My 14 year-old son decided to live with me the first time my wife had the OM stay overnight (in our bed, down the hall from our children), He hates the OM and wants as little to do with his mom as possible. That last part is eating her up inside, because you can replace an H but you can't replace a son. Anyway, I'm grateful to have him. We get to laugh at the raunchy comedians on cable and watch football together. It would be pretty lonely in this apartment without him.
Isn't it amazing how amoral WAS's in affairs are? As I've often said, they are like drug-addicted psychopaths.
You're farther along than I am at accepting and detaching. Way to go!
LL
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Of course always something.....I am stilling feeling great! I continue to grow stronger, as my H is growing weaker. He and his OW have broken up, not completely, as they say they are still "friends." But, I know this one (I say this because they have broken up several times in the last year)is a little bit more serious. The reason why I know this is the H has been trying to find little reasons to contact me everyday for the past two weeks. I am getting sick of it. Of course, he always uses the kids as an excuse. I ignore his phone calls, except last night he fooled me and called from his parents because he knew I would answer the phone. I want nothing to do with him. We had what could have been a final conference before our D last week and he did accept what I offered, yet he offered me nothing. Now, it goes to trial. My lawyer and I were willing to let a lot of things go that I was asking for in the divorce. Everything added up to more than half of what I ended up offering in the end. Basically, he had a sweet deal, but refused. I told my lawyer, "I don't get it, for someone who has been wanting this divorce so badly, he could have settled and we could have been divorced within a couple of months." My lawyer said, "Think about it, it buys him more time.....maybe he doesn't want it." Well, I want it and now I need to figure out a way to make a deal so this won't go on longer. There isn't even a trial date set yet....It is so weird how the tables turn. A year ago, I was at my worst and not wanting a divorce. This year, I am at my best and wanting the divorce. He on the otherhand.........who knows????? Have a great Thanksgiving!
